Amendments
On the heels of writing a post about being single and fabulous, I feel duty bound to make an amendment here.
While I love the freedom and spontaneity of the single life (as do many of you), deep down I think there will be a point in many of our lives when we will still want someone to share the (fabulousness that is 'us') with.
Some are open about this desire...while others treat it like a dirty magazine they don't want their parents to find. They hide it in the back of the closet, tucking it under boxes and behind old clothes, all the while hoping that it never finds the light of day.
I guess they were absent that day in school when we were all taught that life isn't always fair, because just when you think you've successfully beaten back the desire for a relationship...there it is, tugging at your sleeve like an impatient child.
While I have no problem whittling away the hours flirting and enjoying the perks of being single...the reality is...I just don't want to be single forever.
My heart longs for someone whose lips know just where to caress the slope of my neck...whose hand fits the curve of my waist...whose heart beats in time with mine.
posted by Lindsey @ 9/16/2006 03:38:00 PM
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"...Someone whose lips know just where to caress the slope of my neck...whose hand fits the curve of my waist...whose heart beats in time with mine."
And who rewards years of devotion by abandoning you and your thousands in debt for his crack pipe, leaving you with a kid on your tit and your insurance premiums through the roof.
Buck up princess! It could always be worse!
(At least, that's how I console myself...)
"Someone whose lips know just where to caress the slope of my neck...whose hand fits the curve of my waist...whose heart beats in time with mine..."
Thats hot!
Well, I am new to your blog and I dont know whether you are serious about "who needs boys when you can blog" mantra, or whether you are a fulltime, seasoned spinster. I have seen your pic on loser blog and I am sure you get plenty of attention from men.
I prefer to be single and dating rather than plain single.
Amen to that!!
You should totally write romance novels! I'm feeling like I should send you money or something for having read this post :) Good stuff!!!
I just got home from seeing "The Last Kiss"..and it reminded me of the benefits of being single, and the benefits of being in a relationship. And thinking back to what I saw tonight (which was a realistic portrayal of relationships), i have to admit...i forgot how shitty people can be to one another. Im happy being single...for now.
Make sure you see this movie.
You got my heart beating...
oh wait...nope i apologize...was just that oscar meyer song on tv.
I freakin love that song.
oh..but I love you too Linners.
ditto ...
My heart longs for someone whose lips know just where to caress the slope of my neck...whose hand fits the curve of my waist...whose heart beats in time with mine.
I'm not the first to highlight that last part of your post, I can see, and with good reason. Here I was thinking about something entirely different and you've put me into serious marshmellow mode, dreaming of romance and happily-ever-afters. :-)
Enjoying here and now and how things are and still hoping that a particular dream will come true, sounds to me like you've found the perfect mindset.
Happy Sunday!
Teh 14m3: I'm not depressed. I'm fine. I was just saying that while I'm ok with being single right now, I really would like companionship in the future.
Yrautca: The Spinster life is not for me. Not really. As far as getting asked out. I've not been on a date in 1 1/2 years. :o(
Miss Ash: From your most recent post it seems you may well be on your way to finding that 'someone.'
Courtney: Thanks. When I was getting down to writing that last part, I closed my eyes and thought back to some of my favorite memories.
PP: I totally want to see that movie too. We've already chatted today so you know my feelings on being single vs. having a relationship.
Hippo: I love you too. Even if you do prefer the Oscar Meyer song.
Dzer: Thank you!
Butterfly: I'm racking my brain! Not fair not to tell me who you used to be, but I understand you want your anonymity.
Autumn: Absolutely. I've definetly gained an appreciation for being single...and while enjoying that...I still remain hopeful.
Aww you know, I was really smiling at your last post and it makes me a little sad to see that you have come back to this again. Two weeks ago I went through all my posts deleting some with too much personall information in (I'll blog about that at some point soon). But I did not realize how many of them were me complaining about something. I wonder if you realize how many of your posts are about you sadness of being single. It makes me worry you are putting all you hopes of happiness in the idea of a realationship. My heart goes out to you.
Liz...while I appreciate the concern...I'm not sure if you grasped the concept of the post. It's not about being sad that I'm single. It's not about putting ALL my happiness into the prospect of having a relationship.
The post is about accepting and being able to enjoy my time as a single person...but to also look forward to a time when I can have a companion to share things with. Being single IS fabulous. But so is having that 'someone.' And this post says...though I look forward to it one day...I'm okay where I am right now.
As for lots of post about being single. Ummmmm....well, you do realize that the title of this blog is Spinster War Diaries.
Don't worry about me...I'm doin' alright.
Linny, I couldn't have explained how I feel any better than exactly what you wrote.
Yep, I love the freedom to do whatever I please and I love flirting, meeting new people...but it just isn't for the REAL me.
In the end, I will want something more.
I'm so glad I found my B, he fits me perfectly.
I can't believe you haven't found him yet... but when you do... it will be PERFECT!! :)
**the reality is...I just don't want to be single forever.
same here...but who knows what we have in store...take one day at a time babez.
Keshi.
the vacancy sign was perfect!!! good post.
haha... i was thinkin the same thing the other day.
it's nice to be single and not have to answer to anyone and be free...
but i miss having that "one" girl to share memories with.
i wish there was a happy balance - to have the freedom of being single and the comfort of being in a happy relationship.
I am so with you in that sentiment
The reason that single folks don't want to admit to their dirty little secret (the desire for a relationship and/or marriage) is because they are promptly looked down upon.
I don't think there's anything wrong with desiring a spouse...and there's certainly no point in lying about it. If you want a man, say you want a man for goodness sakes!
There are too many ladies playing the "I'm fine all by myself" game, but when they do get a boyfriend, you don't hear from them again until they break up. LOL
He knows which side of the bed I like to sleep on and that I take milk in my coffee. *sigh*
Glad to hear those details. I tend to be a worrier. Hope I didn't come off rude or nosey. You are such a great gal and I hope to see you beaming with happiness all the time :D
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