Worry and Doubt
Does anyone else wonder if there really is such a thing as 'happily ever after'?
In books and movies, we're inundated with stories of romance and passion and promises of forever...but what about in reality?
I've begun to find myself plagued by worries and doubts. Their darkness spindling along the walls of my thoughts, pressing against the now fragile door protecting what's left of my faith.
It seems that no matter how tightly I hold the handle or how many blankets I stuff along the cracks...I can still feel them seeping in, sticking to my skin.
I fight because I want the happy ending, I want passion and I want romance. But I'm getting tired...and I'm not sure how much more fight I have within me.
posted by Lindsey @ 5/17/2006 07:04:00 PM
33 Comments:
I'm not sure the whole thing (life) ends exactly AT the happy ending, but I know that there can be and are happy endings along the way. I'm living in one with right now. really. And it came at a time I was SO NOT expecting it. I wasn't looking for it. But it happened anyway. Don't despair - I have faith for you.
Don't give up Linny! And don't give in to doubt. It's out there and it's worth waiting for. (Yes, I do believe all the corny crap I say) BTW, doesn't tsduff know I'm supposed to get the first comment?
I totally believe in happy endings. Even if they turn out sorta shitty...its the way it was meant to be. I'm an idealist at heart, and I totally believe that everything works out the way it should.
You know, I'm finding out that sometimes I, personally, try to mold life into what I see as a fairy tale instead of taking it as it comes. And I'm trying to stop.
I don't believe in Hollywood endings but I do think that sometimes you're lucky enough to find passion and romance. And after the passion and romance fade away, sometimes you are even lucky enough to find contentment and friendship...and that's nice :)
I would fight for the happy ending.
HAPPILY EVER AFTER is just not for story books...trust me Linny, it happens in real life too (i cant believe Im saying this considering the loser-love-life I have lol, but I have seen others happy so I better believe in it)...but just that we got to make it happen, cos we r the Authors of our own life stories, not anyone else ;-)
Stay positive girl...
Keshi.
I have battled with this many times. Just when my doubts had choked out all of the faith that I had, I have begun to see the light again.
I think sometimes we just have to not think about anything and take on the I-don't-care attitude until we can again muster the courage to believe again. Believing takes more energy than it seems it would, doesn't it?
I think happy endings are possible! But, I also think its a choice. Road gets pretty bumpy, and on occasion, you run out of gas. Happens. But I believe that if we choose to be happy, we can make our ending our own, even if all isn't as well as you dreamed.
If you're expecting a happy ending with a man, look out. You might get it but it comes with lots of dirty socks and scratching!
fight for it
some things are worth it
trust me...i know
even though there are pants things going on in my life at the moment i'm still happy because if a certain someone who has come back into my life and been there for me
Ah yes, a happy ending.
Yours just isn't ready yet sweetie. The longer it takes, the more fantastic its gonna be.
You are the master of your destiny. I love your posts. If nothing else you can live your deepest fantasy in your mind until you find what you are looking for. I'm also holding out for the fairy tale romance... and I won't quit 'til I find her... or 'til I'm dead! Don't settle. Too many people settle and wonder why the hell they did! Be comforted in knowing that you aren't going it alone.
JD ;)
I can understand how u feel.
FOR A LONG time...
I was living in pure hell and torture bc I was losing belief...
It sux to think that "it" doesn't exist...that is where all my misery started from though.
I am happy to say that I waited it through and found a great guy. Even with him...it took me a long time to accept it. Thank god he was patient enough to see it through with me. I almost jeopardized (sp?) my chance to have this.
Keep the hope alive.
i don't believe in it ... at least for me ... but good luck to you :)
your a wonderful person linny and you will have your happy ending in time.
i know the right guy is out and looking for you also...
don't give up..you will have your forever and happy ending....
I do believe in happy endings. But I don't think about endings at all. I just try to focus on today, and make today as happy as I can. That seems to be working pretty well for me, but who knows? Right?
It would be a lot worse if you were plagued by rats. Even if you leave traps and poison, you still have to clean up all the bodies. That's gross.
I think there is happiness, but not the way movies make it seem. Movie make life in general seem like something it isn't--relationships, careers, apartments, all of it. Then we feel bad when we don't have it. It's sad.
Coughlin's law: All things end badly, or else they wouldn't end.
Do I believe in happily ever after, yes. I believe that things don't have to end. They just eveolve from one phase to another. Don't give up hope. Don't settle.
time to book an appointment with Doctor Phil?
Life has no happy ever after. Just the grave...oh, that's a hideous thought? lol!
But seriously, WE make our own happy-ever afters. Go get one.
Your post reminds me of the old saying about how you keep em down on the farm after they've seen Paree. Surely, you'd have those same doubts whomever you might be with.
The modern world provides us with the illusion of endless choices -- and this paralyses our ability to make decisions cause it serves as a continuing critique of those choices that we actually make.
Yeah, unless you have no imagination, it's possible, even probable, that you're going to choose to be with somebody who is wanting in some ways, some of them serious. I don't think you can be happy unless you recognise this. That doesn't mean you're wrong to regret your decision, or to take steps to change it -- that issue's between you and God. But regrets or disappointment of some kind is a given.
It was probably easier for people before television, communication, and mass literacy clued us all in as to what was out there and our comparative wealth and health existed to give us options. Life is harder in lots of ways with options.
Tex
I feel that way most days and it sucks ass...
I DO wonder if there's really a happily ever after.
Don't give up, really. :)
oh Linny sweety take it easy and see the beauty u already have in ya...u dun need any external sources to feel whole cos u already r...so enjoy it mwahhhhhhh!
Keshi.
Hang on it there, Linny :-)
I like this: "Never settle for less than you are willing to give."
Things never happen exactly when you want them to, it sounds so trite, but it will.
You can only live happily ever after one day at a time. I'm sure that's a quote from someone.
I'm living happily ever after right now, but I can tell you that it's not all roses. There are still times when I'm unhappy (although I suspect it's to do with hormones and fatigue more than my situation) and it takes a lot of hard work to maintain a madly in love state. Compromise isn't easy, but you have to do it if you want to be with someone else forever and ever.
Don't wait for love to happen.. it'll happen when you're not looking. Just do what you want to do in life, and the love of your life will probably come when you least expect it and ruin it all for you (but at least you'll be in love...).
Yes ma'am. There are plenty. It happens and don't you ever think otherwise.
HOWEVER, it is the fight that keeps you from it.
When you give up fighting, it will smack you upside the head and say "I'm right here!!! Pay attention." LOL
Really. When you aren't looking it comes. That's a cliché because it's true.
You are such an incredible, loving, deeply feeling soul. Your time will come.
aye, aye, aye, aye, aye, linny, mija, when it comes to love and relationships it aint easy, throw some kids in the mix and it gets really hard..sometimes its great, sometimes u wanna strangle his ass. I think we learn something from every stinky relationship we have, I think that some never find the one for them but other things in life make it a happy ending.
I just know shit aint never came easy for me and as I get older it just keeps getting harder and harder. I wish I was a kid agian....
Sounds crazy...but I gave up and a few weeks later met my current bf who is in so many ways the man of my dreams.
Sometimes giving up is just about letting go and stopping the focus on finding the "right guy" and more on just living life and taking things as they come to you. The right guy for you is someone who goes the extra mile, makes the biggest effort and makes you laugh the hardest. He may not come in the package you expect...but if you let go of your worries and pre-concieved notions of how it's "supposed to be"...I bet he'll find you sooner than you think.
I haven't a clue about it Linny. So, I'll cut my comment short there, and save you the rant.
First time here, I love your blog. I've given up, and found a million other things in life that I enjoy...sincerely. You can make yourself miserable looking for that one particular thing, and miss out on all the other wonderful things along the way. That said, I still think it could all change for you, you're only 28.
There is none. That may sound bitter but I'm a realist. I just settle for happy now.
I just don't know anymore.
Oh. That is so. sad.
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