The Singles Stand Alone
For many of us, one of the downsides to getting older is the loss of fellow 'singles.' You reach a certain age and suddenly it's like you're one of those mechanical ducks people shoot at fairs. At first there's a whole row of you dancing along without a care in the world, then suddenly....bam! bam! bam! You look back and all of the damn ducks are dropping like flies.
Then, with the loss of 'singles' comes the inevitable addition of babies. Suddenly everyone is getting pregnant. And I do mean everyone. I'm inclined to make an inquiry to our water processing plants to find out what exactly they are putting in the water because no fewer than 6 of my friends has either recently given birth or announced a pregnancy.
I will not lie, it has been difficult to come to terms with the fact that instead of spending my weekends chatting over cocktails with my friends, I'm now sipping fruit punch and eating cupcakes during baby showers.
Don't get me wrong. I love my friends and I'm incredibly happy for them.
It's just that...now, there's another empty chair at the table.
posted by Lindsey @ 2/21/2006 06:24:00 PM
28 Comments:
OH MY GOD...i'm number one
Now that that's out of the way...you arent single...You have us. Isnt that enough?
LOL. Oh Princess...you're either scaring the living hell out of me or warming my heart... :0)
See i agree completely with you, however i sometimes feel as though i'm growing apart from some of my friends. They are all into weddings and babies and those are two things i have absolutely no interest in. There's a group of friends i get together with, two are married and one is getting married and is dying to have a baby. We sit around and talk about weddings and babies and i cringe. Suppose it doesnt' help i am in the wedding party. Never again.
I know what you mean alot of my friends from back in the day are married, and have kids. I on the other hand don't want to get married or have children anytime soon so I have drifted away from them. Now I hang out with fellow grad students whose ages range from 23 to 35 and none of us are planing to get married and have kids...I think we have agreed the first to leave our group because of marriage or kids will get thier ass beaten.
Fruit punch and cupcakes.
There's your silver lining.
I have been reading your blog and you and I are very much on the same page. It's almost like reading my own thoughts! lol! And speaking of the pregnancies and having the water tested, I am a fellow Georgian and I think we should INSIST on some test results! You know, I hear some pretty strange things flow through our Chattahoochee River!
it's happening everywhere I turn, in the last 6 months the baby boom creeped into my immediate circle of friends which I never thought it would.
I can totally relate. I wish we were in the same city. We could be single gals together...
Linny - its becuase I care
Who needs a man when you can blog, right? errr......
I'll pull up an extra chair if you ever make it to Houston.
you don't have to be single to feel like you're standing alone
Linny me girl, marriage and babies?
Totally overrated.
Your friends will be fat and depressed and probably divorced soon enough.
Enjoy the punch and cupcakes while they last...
Happy Wednesday!
~ Ash
Guys go through the same thing... I know exactly what you're talknig about... Except the baby shower thing.
It is the era of babies.
I hate the "When are you gonna start having little ones? Don't you want to be a parent? It really is the greatest feeling ever."
SHUT UP BITCH!
I'LL DO IT WHEN I'M READY!
Oh, sorry.
Didn't mean to vent on you.
Yeah, many of my friends have gone the baby route.
I don't think I fit into either category... singles or married.
True, I have a child, but I'm divorced... yes, I have a boyfriend, but we are not married.
I do go out every weekend that my son's at his fathers and have a great time partying, but I can't do it all the time.
Married people don't like my freedom, and singles don't like my lack of it...
I'm stuck.
It is amazing how they all seem to do it at the same time!
Duck analogy was classic :-D
Have a great evening, x
Time to mourn the death of friends and rejoice in freedom.
So true Linny. One of my good friends got married and moved with her husband out of state. It's all changing. My little sisters are having kids too while I'm still single and don't see children on my horizon any time soon. I guess that's just part of life.
I hear ya, I was the last of my friends with a long term boyfriend and after a ton of weddings, I thought this isn't so bad, I can be not married but dating - its close! Now the babies! I can't hang!
We should start some kind of support group blog for friends whose friends are having babies!
A lot of my friends are going thru the getting engaged/married stage.. then the babies will come.
Maybe I'm a selfish witch, but I just don't get the draw of being a parent. I want some of my friends back from their bald headed little crying machines! Kidding, I love kids but seriously, parents need to remember that there are still others out there that care about them and would like to have a conversation that doesn't involve day care issues and crying.
The married part isn't as bad as the babies to me. The really change people and to me, not for the better. Eventually, after half those marriages fail, they will be back on the scene single again. So give it 3 years. But you're not alone :)
Well... you can look on the bright side. If statistics prove out... soon you'll have them back at your table after divorce, and then you can smile to yourself as they complain about their ex-husbands to you. Not that I'm a pessimist or anything.
Your descriptions are so fun to read. You should be writing articles for a newspaper. You really have a flair.
Don't you worry...you'll be getting married while all of them are getting "separated". You'll learn from their mistakes. ;)
I'm right there with you. My good friend just gave birth to her second, and all of my friends that have been around awhile have been knocked up or at the very least are hitched.
Whoa girl! I totally feel you on this one. I see it like this... In 5 years (hopefully) we will be married and in the same place as our friends that are married and having babies now. But right now we are really lucky that we can do whatever we want. We can have our dream job. We can travel. We can go back to school. We can be spontaneous. Then in 5 years when we are at that same spot in life with our friends, we will have SOOOO many more fabulous stories to tell when we are sitting around. For now... pass me a cupcake and my friends/family that think I'm less than a person can kiss my ass
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