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I firmly believe that when you are single, you should not be allowed to enter any store within the months of January or February without first being fitted for some of those blinders like they put on race horses.
My reasoning for this is simple. With blinders on, you can stay focused on what you are there to get and you can try to avoid the heart shaped boxes of candy, pink candles and sickeningly sweet cards that profess undying love.
For me the worst thing about Valentine's Day is that little window of loneliness that magically appears in the same place that used to house a brick wall. I go back in time and suddenly I can feel his warm breath on the back of my neck...I listen to his heart beat against my cheek and I remember how perfectly his hand fit the curve of my waist.
I remember the good things...the great things.
But I forget the times when he was callus. I forget the times he made me cry. I forget that I deserved better.
It's like a friend once said, "Linny... if love is blind... maybe we need a seeing eye dog."
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Oh how I hear you!
Oh hunnie....That post breaks my heart. Isnt it funny no matter how many bad things they do to us, we only ever remember the few good things that we miss....not just about them, but about anyone in general.
Valentines day is my neice's birthday now....thats what we celebrate now.
I HATE Valentine's day. It's such a bullshit "holiday." This year, we're going with Berly and her husband on a grunge-filled no frills anti-Valentine's day camping trip. There will be no chocolate to get fat on, no flowers to wilt away and no BS cards to pad the wallet of Hallmark. There will, however, be s'mores :)
Yeah, i hate Valentine's Day. It so commercial too.
I hate to say it, but I love Valentine's Day... it's my birthday. This year will suck... my first year without a man. I mean, the ex was usually not around anyway, but at least I had the idea of a man! LOL!
I am with you on that, Valentines sucks. I said as much last year.
I try to thinnk about VD like it was when I was a kid. So instead of thinking about being sinlge and alone I think fun things. For me VD is heart shaped candy, funny little trade cards, cupids, and more candy. No grown up romance, or lack there of, required. Hope you make it through :)
I have two observations:
1)Linny, just be thankful that you have good memories to look back on. I have naught - and I'm not complaining, but at times it can leave me desiring more.
2)Liz, I noticed how you referred to Valentine's as "VD". Hmmm... perhaps that is appropriate. From WebMD.com: "Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), previously known as venereal diseases or VD, are infectious diseases that are spread through sexual contact. Examples include syphilis, gonorrhea, genital herpes, genital warts, chlamydia, and acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS)." Yea... I'd say none of those "VDs" sound pleasant.
Sorry Liz!
I checked my timetable. I have class on V-day's night. And knowing there are 20 more people enduring the sub-zero temperature in the classroom with me(plus many more in other classrooms) makes me feel better already!
;)
I need to learn brail because I keep misreading the directions.
I hate the fact that Valentine's Day is so commercial. . . we start seeing a million red hearts right after New Year's. I don't think I've ever had a boyfriend on the 14th. This year, I will be celebrating Valentine's Day by babysitting my godsons. They're a lot more fun that men anyway. . . well, sometimes. :)
Buy yourself the baddest box of heart-shaped chocolate and focus on the fact you get to eat them all. (no worrying about calories, mind you!)
Sorry, Linny, sounds like a tough day to get through - understand what its like to have good memories that spring forth at the most inopportune moments - hope you find something non-Valentiney and fun to occupy that one day. Just another day.
x
Boo Urns to Valentines Day....I do however enjoy those lovely cinnamon hearts
Valentine's day is retarded. What you need to do is think of the day after. Why? Because that's when all of the good candy goes on sale.
St. Patricks Day is the only holiday worth celebrating (aside from my birthday and christmas, of course;) ). It's a holiday that promotes binge drinking for one whole day.
it's good that you remember the nice things on days like that, but it's not good that you've not got anyone to share the day with... gimme your address and i'll mail you a nice card :)
we're being spared it, so far.
what's in the shops here already is Easter Eggs. Hello? A bit early, no?
I agree about seeing all that Valentine stuff plastered anyway.Who are those card stores fooling anyway. They need the sales because after Christmas, let's face it, there is no major holiday until Easter.
Oh, I kind of agree with Liz on this one...
I like Valentine's Day for the whole childish, silly, lovey-dovey aspect. Cute, you know?
But I hear you on the ex-boyfriend front.
My ex. THE ex. Our anniversary was Valentine's Day!
(Sigh)
Oh well. I've still got chocolate, right?
That's all I really need. ;)
Happy Tuesday,
~ Ash
*guammie bear hugs*
fucking v-day!
Valentine's Day is a crazy holiday. Even in a relationship, there's too much pressure. I hate it!!
i've never had a bf during valentine's day, not for 24 years! this year, though, is apparently lucky #25, unless i do something really dumb in the next 2 weeks. but anyway, as a result of *never* having associated VD with a boy, it never got me too down in the past... it hardly registers for me on the holiday scale.
word! I'm gonna go cry now! thanks! :P
Linny. You're a star... you shouldn't settle for the people dreaming of you, the people wishing on you or the people reaching out to you but the people who shine just as bright as you.
I honestly believe you're a fantastic person... and everytime I close my eyes I see your legs... so you're ALL good in my book young lady.
oh IB...this is why I love you to peices...you always know the right thing to say to cheer a girl up.
Seeing eye dog?
So, basically, Linny, you are saying you want a guy you can put a dog collar on and leash?
V Day is still a good two weeks away. That gives you plenty of time...
Smart friend.
Linny, sometimes Valentines is harder if you have someone.
linny - i had a guy break up with me the week before valentine's and i yelled at him
HAVE YOU WALKED INTO A STORE LATELY... THIS IS WHEN YOU CHOSE TO DO THIS!
my god... you speaketh my mind.
Pink and red boxes of candy that isn't good and just adds weight is not a mark of love! If you need something to be happy about, be glad you do not have to pretend like what you really wanted was crappy candy!
True dat girl.
If only there was a holiday where we celebrated light and love for ourselves. One day a year to remember who we really are and to rejoice in it; to not feel guilty about that extra helping or wanting alone time; to not regret what we did or said or what we didn't do or say. How beautiful would that be?
I'm not single, and I still can't stand valentines day. Bah! Hubs and I don't celebrate it.
I think you should find another single friend, go out to a bar and drink it up...
Thats what I would do ;)
I love these last two posts.
Valentine's does suck for the singles like us. I just hunker down and say "Bah, cinnamon hearts!" all month.
I'm not single and I've always loathed the exclusive part of Valentines, the only thing I do is buy those little cards you used to buy for Valentine's in elementary school (you know, "I ch-ch-ch-choose you"!) and mail them to my friends. It's my little way of saying, remember in elementary school when everyone got a valentine from everyone else? That's the holiday I like. The boyf and I aren't going to go out and fight for a table at a restaurant and buy crappy candy. I'm alergic to red dye anyway.
I could mail you a few pounds of chocolate if you think it would help!
Oh Valentine's Day is an evil, evil day. If you are not with someone then you are lonely if you are with someone then you have to stress out over finding the perfect gift. I think the "holiday" should be discontinued
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