And Then There Was One...
I suppose it had to happen at some time or another. I just wasn't expecting it to happen all at once...literally.
Everyone knows I'm single...and while I wish I could find a nice guy...I generally don't stress about it too much. (Exceptions to this rule: Holidays and when I have PMS...emotions are running crazy at both times.) Part of my confidence has been knowing that 3 of my very closest friends are single too...therefore, I'm not alone and we all spend our time together. Two of the friends are guys so we've always used each other for instant dates when we wanted to catch a movie, go to the theater or needed a companion for a wedding or other such party.
As of last week. This is no more.
We all know Cathy finally landed herself a man. Shy or not...he's got the hots for her and she is his 'last call of the day.' I'm genuinely happy for my best friend and I told her so. I wasn't stressing. This still left me with two single friends.
Then last Monday Jeff calls me. "Linny. You're never going to believe this. I met this amazing girl...she's really cool, funny, cute and we have so much in common. It's crazy. We went out this weekend and had a really cool date." I took a deep breath and told him how happy I was for him...because I truly am. I want my friends to find love. Besides, this still left me with one single friend.
Until Daniel calls me the very next day. "Linny...guess what! I'm dating C now! She came by this weekend and said she's liked me for a really long time and was just too scared to tell me. Things are going really great." This time I took a deep breath and said, "Now, Daniel...don't take what I'm about to say the wrong way. While I'm truly, truly happy for you...THIS FUCKING SUCKS!" Daniel is a good friend. He understood.
Now...there is just me. Waiting for my last call of the day...
posted by Lindsey @ 12/20/2005 06:21:00 PM
30 Comments:
Sorry Linny. That stinks. Hugs!
Man, Linny, that is rough, especially right at Christmas and New Years. Do the new dates have anyone they can set you up with? Maybe this will open up a whole new world of men for you!
aww Linny I know the feeling...cos I always feel I'd be the last woman on Earth to find Mr.Right lol! But heyyy it's not such an easy thing to find that person who u can really connect with...I mean if I wanted to have just anyone by my side, I have heaps of guys who I can easily go out with...well it's not the same as going out with someone u really can connect with and have fun with...is it?
** Part of my confidence has been knowing that 3 of my very closest friends are single too...
so far I have 4 great single friends who r my saviors too (girl n boys) :) but if they find someone soon I'd still feel the same...cos I know that even if Im alone I can have fun with myself and feel good..u just need that confidence and self-assurance...
well mebbe ur friends just found some holiday dates...mebbe real ones...who knows. Linny u r just so very special and it will take alot for a guy to please ya...dun be sad, just be happy that u r a very intelligent and beautiful girl who will have her Prince coming to her when the right time is here...
Hugggggz and Merry Christmas to ya Linny! Just dance and have fun cos ur disco needs u :):)
Keshi.
Come visit Houston anytime - i've got tons of single girlfriends and we always have a blast - even though i'm watching two of my best friends fall in love right now but they will never admit it.
Most of my friends from college are married already or engaged and actually planning the wedding, as opposed to the infinite engagement. It is a little weird being the only single guy left, but it got a lot easier when I started seeing somebody a few weeks ago.
Well, that comment started out well and ended badly.
Awww poor Linny! I actually understand how you feel (sort of). I've been left in the dust by my friends before. But for what it's worth, I'll always be here to read your emails and posts and stuff. And next time you're in the Kansas City area, let me know and you can look me up. We'll commiserate our singleness together. :)
Too bad we don't live closer. I could be your fellow single pal. I feel your pain.
hmm ... I don't get calls at the beginning or the middle of the day ... let alone the end ... so feel lucky in that much! LOL
You'll get yours Linny and it will be worth the wait. Like I've said before, based on the personality in your writing I can't believe guys aren't fighting over you daily. Apparently men in Georgia are morons. You need to move to a better state, like perhaps, NY.
definately getting you what i said i'd get you now ;)
Its obviously a trend - keep your eyes open :)
Linny, I am the only single person my age I know. My best friend has three kids. The one single guy I know is continually on the verge of getting married to some long-distance relationship he's got going, so he doesn't count himslef as single.
I have to hang out with people up to five-seven years my junior to find single people, and that isn't always fun. Quite often, I'd like to hang out with someone who remembers the Eighties, knows the smae music and old TV shows I do... but they all have 'family' things going on.
In short, after I said it in long, I commiserate with you.
I'll be alone yet again this year too Linny... Well, not completely alone, my 'son' is spending the Christmas holiday with me, but a 19 year old kid was not what I really had in mind... LOL
But I do know where you're comming from. It sucks being alone especially this time of year.
Don't worry. Mr. "Right" (for linny) is just organizing his life, making millions and what not and when he is done, he will come for you.
Man...I hate this. Don't you wish you could ever find friends like on Seinfeld? People who are all good enough to have romantic relationships, but you know they'll never commit to anyone or anything but a lifelong friendship with you and the rest of the group?
That's what I'd like. Then I wouldn't be lonely and I could still sleep around. ;)
It's great that you're happy for them though. They're lucky they have you as a friend. And if nothing else, surely this will equal good karma for you. And with good karma, love shouldn't be too far behind. :)
~ Ash
Who knows, maybe you will find Mr. Right here on Blogger? Men that go to Church would be a great place to start! You are probably better off, men are pansies and need their mommies.
Hey Linny. That does suck! Let me know if you need someone to hang out with!
You could get a boyfriend anytime you wanted... but it would just be a "boyfriend" not someone you genuinely liked and who would treat you like a princess. Never settle just because you're on your own... it's all about the timing and so what if you're the only one... you are the ONLY one who's single... it has its benefits.
1) You can look at hot guys and say out loud they are "hot"
2) Xmas is cheaper
3) You haven't got to explain where you're going to someone
4) You have more room in your bed to stretch... and not worry about a man bloody snoring in your ear
5) You will get to have intimacy when, where and with whoever you like... it never gets boring
6) Dates are great... when you are in a relationship you don't have dates anymore
7) Your friends will think you are the "cool and funky one"
8) You can go on holidya wherever you want to go...
I could go on forever on this list... being single is ace, being in a relationship can also be ace... exhaust the goodness of singledom before you get dsperate for the relationship half.
Oh sorry forgot to say... come to Europe and we'll go dancing and I'll buy you Royal Mojito's til the early hours. If you can handle crooked teeth, the slightly absurd accent and that we drive on the right side... you'll have lots of joy in London!
You're still young, sister! You have plenty of time to find that special someone. Sounds like you have some international options too :) lol
i'm with innocent...come to the UK
we'll look after you
and i could give you your present ;)
lol
That stinks...but maybe by the new year they'll all be single again. Nah, I wish them only the best but then again maybe the new year has great things in store for you!
Aww....Linny. Ya...i've been free from men for 2 months. Longest time i've been free for 10 years. And the only people I can get to hit on me, are losers who love the lord. Ugh. Maybe the man of my dreams is in GA...and maybe the man of your dreams is in southern Ontario. Wanna switch lives for a week and find out?
This same thing is going on with my best friend at work.
She's the envy of every married/non-single person she knows, but she hates it.
I'll save the "grass is greener" rant and just come and give you a nice hug.
It sounds mean but odds are against three relationships all lasting.
However, you are a crazy funny girl and obviously fun loving, You will find someone and until then you have a chance to meet three more people to hang out with.
join the club sweetie. Been here in this club for 6 years. It sucks.
Drop me an email sometime and we'll be online single gal pals. Sometimes not having a boyfriend sucks... but it doesn't have to. My addy is on my profile...
Innocent...thank you for the wonderful comments. I laughed outloud when I read them and truly they genuinely made me feel better.
Will definetly take you and Px up on the invite if I ever make it over there. Crooked teeth don't bother me at all. lol. :0)
What's your number?
*big, hulking sigh*
OHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! That is such a bummer - at the beginning of the story I was thinking "oh good! atleast she has some single friends to be single with!". Don't worry... new relationships... blahhhh... never last... wink, wink. (Putting a hex on them as I type... he he)
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