Jack Jack Take Back
As we get older, I think we all learn at some point or another that there are certain questions that you should never ask your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Inevitably, they are questions that deep down, no matter how much you think you want to know the answer...you really don't. Yet some people, thinking they are above the pain...ask anyway.
"If you had to choose one of my friends to go out with, who would you pick?"
"How many people have you slept with?"
"Was your last girlfriend prettier than me?"
"Was your last girlfriend better in bed than me?"
"Do you love me more than so and so?"
Fortunately...I believe that the past is the past. We all have one. (Although I'd like to wrap a lead weight around mine and throw it in the bottom of a lake...but whatever.) And truth be told, I have zero interest in those questions when I know the kind of future we have ahead of us.
Now if I could just teach this to the younger girls...
posted by Lindsey @ 1/24/2007 06:20:00 PM
20 Comments:
You are so right! ~M
how many people have you slept with is always one I dont ever want to know the answer to..and dont ever want someone asking me that.
I agree! Those are definite questions to stay away from. Not to mention I would lie if my boyfriend asked me that anyway - so what's the point??
Past is the past. Way to go girl.
**"How many people have you slept with?"
I wanted to ask this from my ex-bf when we first met but I just let it be. Im glad anyways LOL!
Keshi.
I often wonder what their ex's look like. I can't help it. I suppose i'd rather not know though because i mean really, what if she's a 7 foot model *i'd feel inferior* and if she's hideously ugly *i'd feel ugly, because maybe he likes ugly girls* LOL.
Never ask a question that you don't want to answer.
How about does size matter? (hehe)
Girl all I have to say is you better watch what you are getting into. Remember words over the phone and internet are so different in real life. He will tell you what you want to hear, but a snake is always a snake. It would be different if there was only 1 that had a bad past with him, but when there are several, I hate to see a sweet person get something she does not deserve
Miss Anonymous... I beg to differ.
First.... How the hell do you know anything about this guy? Or do you think that all guy's are the same. I agree that many men lie to their spouses (having been one of those) However, it is possible that one woman might bring out the best in a man that another woman might not! And it is up to each of us women to make that decision ourselves. If you have ALSO been on the receiving end of lies then count yourself lucky that you aren't with the liar any more.
surprisingly enough i hear from my guy friends that girls are stupid enough to ask those questions
Eeek! I've never asked any of those questions and I never would. I did have a boyfriend tell me once which of my friends he would date but I sure as heck didn't ask that (nor did I care much for him volunteering up such information). I really don't care to talk much about ex-girlfriends and I sure don't ever want to know how many there were before me. And, really, why would anyone ever want to know that?
I have somehow managed to royally screw up my comments. Sorry people...didn't mean to make you anonymous. My bad. Apparently I inadverantly switched my blog to google something or other...hopefully you guys will pop up like normal later.
Lindsey, you can't teach that to the younger girls. You can tell them but they won't believe you. That lesson only comes from experience. And it is experience not age, I know several women older than you who haven't learned that lesson.
My stance is "an honest answer to a fair question." Some of those are fair questions so the "hypothetical" she better make sure she wants the answer before she asks a land mine question.
You are very astute. Everybody DOES have a past, and each ones' past is blameless, as long as it ends when the two of you got together. Then it becomes the present. What happened BEFORE Terry(BT) is just life before me. There was nothing bad involved, just life. Those questions are immature, painfully fruitless, and should not be asked... EVER. Give a little trust to your mate.
these questions are inevitable i think. there are worse ones that i've been asked, trust me...
i read something that made me laugh the other day, it was about having a "sexual CV"...
another good reason for not asking is some people don't know the answers...
Agree... shouldn't ask! Most men will tell all as a matter of bragging rights once a certin amount of booze has been consumed. It's really hard to say what is truth and what is elaborated at that point. But if you really want to know ask after heavy drinking ....he'll never remember telling you.
Interesting.
I think the real question is, "Why does it matter?"
How can it possibly make a difference whether his/her ex has bigger/smaller boobs; if you are prettier/uglier/shorter/taller than him/her; if you have had more/less sexual partners than your boyfriend/girlfriend?
All that matters are the moments between you, what you do with them, and making sure you don't ruin them by living in the past.
Don't ask, don't tell!
Hence my unending fear of exposing my blog to my boyfriend. I don't think it would be to the detrement of our relationship - we are past that point now. But, still...TMI furreals.
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