Second Date Update
So Cathy and her rhythm deficient fella had a second date on Friday.
They opted to hang out at her place with some movies but quite frankly I doubt much movie watching was accomplished...actually from what I heard, not much else got accomplished either.
Whoops!
Keeping in mind that this guy is apparently the shy type, she tried to be incredibly patient...even though at times it felt like training a puppy.
The kissing had improved ever so slightly but it took her TWO hours to finally get him to move anywhere below her bra line. To encourage him she used positive reinforcement by moaning softly in approval any time he built up the courage to move somewhere other than her arm.
To me, the whole process seems more exhausting than enjoyable and I sincerely doubt that I could have been as patient as she was. I would have probably gotten frustrated within the first 30 minutes and would have had to take matters into my own hands.
Anywho,when all was said and done, the hours had crept away and suddenly it was 3:00am. Being that it was so late and he had a long drive home, Cathy offered to let him stay the night.
He responded by...going home.
Now I know that he was probably just being a gentleman when he declined her invitation but let me just tell you...
From a woman's perspective, when a man turns you down, no matter what the reason...it is a serious blow to the ego. I cringed when I heard about it and it didn't even happen to me!
So we'll see if this guy even gets a third date.
posted by Lindsey @ 10/15/2006 01:50:00 PM
31 Comments:
Second date aside gentleman or not I cringed and I don't even know her!
Men.. just can't figure out what the hell they want... if only we had the power to read there minds!
~M
My Heart Hurts: I KNOW. I wish there was some book that explained them properly.
Just thinking: The whole gentleman thing was immediately what I thought as well. and it's great. Don't get me wrong. But it's still a blow, regardless.
Wow, did this guy just did a Leopold from Kate & Leopold?
Haha. Wow.. 3 a.m.?! Oh man. That seriously hurts. I can relate back to the lacking rhythm w/ the kissing thing. I've kissed several guys who thought that was how to kiss and I wanted to die. I guess it's a slightly better sign it improved a little bit? Although they may qualify for their Golden Buckeye Card by the time he's ready to have some s-e-x.
one of two words my dear linny..
GAY!!!!
or
VIRGIN!!!
I think FU is onto something. The big V. He's probably unsure.
It's these type of exhausting stories that make me want to give up!
From our spinster point of view..Yeah, he's probably shy. But we FINALLY get a date and THIS is what we get????
Keep us updated as to whether he gets a third date. Doesn't the saying go, "The third time is charm?" :)
I defintely know that it's three strikes and you're out, though. ;)
Does she KNOW that you posted this on here for the world to read?? And make fun of her? LOL!!!! You are a bad friend. hahahaha Remind me never to tell you anything.
I don't know why I am laughing so hard, I just am. For some reason this whole situation is very very funny. That poor guy. That poor girl.
Holy moly! Dude these stories make me feel rather good and positive about myself. I am so hard on myself and yet I am wayyyyy better than such guys. Ys, if you dont wanna have sex than just say so and watch a movie. Spending hours above the bra line sounds excessive. Maybe he came inside his pants and decided to leave.
ohhh... yeah. leaving is bad. he sounds like a dud.
yrautca - i don't get what this excuse is about coming in your pants...
i mean.. it's not that hard to get it up again for another round!!!
oops.. i think i just divulged too much info!
That post sent me off into the long winding road of possibility. I can't help but want to guess that perhaps it's more than shyness, more than chivalry and not wanting to overstep a non-existant mark, sounds like he lacks confidence, a bad experience in his past (or even no experience, ya never know) perhaps.
I vote, give him another chance, and be gentle. :-)
For your information Ms.Pessimism, Cathy ASKED me to post about it. She realized the humor in the situation and thought it would be a good story to share.
God love her. :o)
Oh i was laughing so hard when i read this "He responded by going home"
Even if he was a gentleman or shy or whatever, he could have stayed the night and slept on the couch or cuddled for crying out loud.
I know linny...i dont think you are a bad friend...I am a horribly mean bitchy princess.
My friends have given me lots to write about...but alas *ya, im a nerd too*, they have their own blogs. sigh...
Cathy, if you're reading, your stories are good. I recommend your own blog. :o)
"Women are made to be loved, not understood."
-Oscar Wilde
It sounds like men are just as confusing for females.
Rejection is just as crushing for men. We just don't have the choice of stop asking. [Well I guess we do but then we'd never get a date.]
Simply hilarious!
Aaawww, be kinder to the poor guy!
We aren't in high school anymore and since when is it so important to hit these bases??
I would much prefer to be sure I can handle spending many hours with a man before I consider hours in bed with him. Am I alone on this?
I'm know a hot'n'heavy makeout session is always nice, but I would rather be sure I want really want to spend time with the guy before I get worried about my 'satisfaction' in other ways.
Cathy should be happy he wants to spend all sorts of time just enjoying her and her company.
Too many guys think, "dinner, movie, boobies!"
I think he's a keeper. Plus, she can train him to give her exactly what she wants. :)
This may be a case of the "He's just not that into you"'s. Yikes. Also, the guy that wrote that book has written a book called "It's called a breakup because it's broken" which should be mandatory breakup reading. Run, run to the bookstore.
Lol - tell her to hang in there :) Maybe he wants to romance her...
the lindsey thing threw me at first. I hope she gives him date three. He might be worth the effort, especially if he is a gentleman. There are not very many of those!!
ooo ouch the turn down. I had one from Angel a few weeks ago. He's suffering now for it.
Now see, if he had been more aggressive, wouldn't he gotten the "asshole" label?
I think that sometimes women are hard to figure out. They want a gentlemen, but when a guy acts like one, they get freaked out. Maybe he just wasn't ready.
no this is not good....no...no...
the kissing was a warning...I am now with Linn on this one.
Slip him some Viagra in his warm milk. Once he gets one on, it might trigger a primal memory and do something with it!
Delicate...
But a no is not always a bad thing, just as women pouncing is not always a good thing - regardless of date # or the fact its a dent to the ego it should be about the mood, the comfort, the spark...
Hmm... peck kissing... above bra-ine action... I'm leaning towards low self confidence... My opinion, try number three, let him know that you're kind of into him... see if he gets better... if not... look around.
I hear the words "mama's boy" and "emotional issues" screaming in the bells going off in my head...but hey I am a bit jaded in life....
If she likes everything else I think she should give it another go but I wouldn't give more then one or two dates to try and figure him out and if he is worth keeping.
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