The Butterfly Effect
In a time where love can be as puzzling as a complex mathematical equation, it seems necessary for those venturing into the world of dating to be equipped with some sort of quick reference guide.
A 'go to' for the dating impaired.
You know, a translator for those who can't read the signs.
For instance, the question on the table is...butterflies.
With some relationships you feel the butterflies in the pit of your stomach turning you topsy turvy and every which way but up. While in others...they sleep quietly without so much as a flutter.
Are those little butterflies indicators for the amount of love and excitement you have for someone?
And can you love the sleepy ones just as much as the ones that have you turned on your head?
This is when cliff notes would be handy.
posted by Lindsey @ 10/30/2007 07:56:00 PM
11 Comments:
No cliff notes would suffice because every love is different. I just wish they had an antidote for a broken heart.
It depends on if you believe only in love at first site. Old age has brought some wisdom. You need to be friends. You can lust after the flittery butterflies. You can fall in love with the sleep butterflies.
He who is physically attractive and attracted AND he who is emotionally attractive and attracted is only a candidate to be THE ONE if you are at the "same place" in your lives. [If you want children and he is ready to travel the world chances are that you aren't at the same point in your lives.]
But you wanted Cliff Notes:
1) Women are insane.
2) Men are simple creatures who seem complicated because:
a) our training by previous women
b) your assignment of deep complex motives;
c) our confusion when your desires don't match our training.
3) Dating sucks.
4) Find someone who treats you better than you treat yourself.
I need both. the calm side of real love and the lusty side of butterfly love. That is the ideal... havent found it but you never know!
Reminds me of that saying that you cannot get all things needed from one person in your life ...
I'm definitely no expert on love or even on butterflies or what is best. yrauta made a very valid point, every love is different. It is not essential to start off with butterflies, they may come much later, they may even come one at a time, but they should come at some point.
In fact (reading them now) I like all the answers here. A lot. Contradictory perhaps to some extent, but I agree with all three. :-) Which I guess in essence means, there is no real advice, but you will work it out anyway. :-)
Hmm I would think that butterflies turning me topsy turvy are definately a great sign, especiallly when first meeting someone. If the butterflies are non existant for a while....then why bother dating the person?
LOL at Professor Fate but I'm with Autumn Storm. They don't have to come at first, or all at once, but they should come at some point. They're an indication of the excitement you feel when you know you REALLY like someone. And it's such an awesome feeling when it happens the first time in a new relationship!!
Tag, you're it!!
Here's the game:
Write ten statements, intended to different people.
Never tell which one is to who.
They are things you've always wanted to tell people
Sometimes, when he bends to kiss me, the butterflies still leap! The sleepy ones are just as wonderful. Just so long as you at least have some at hand.
Butterflies are extremely important to me...in the beginning.
However, after some time, they do tend to flutter away. Well not necessarily flutter away, but rather they transform themselves into something different :)
Every time I've had "active" butterflies the relationship has crashed and burned HORRIBLY.
This time, with hubs, they were sleepy butterflies. But I have no doubt in my mind that he is the one for me.
I knew my friends were brilliant!
And Professor, I think you hit the nail on the head...
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