And Happy Holidays To You Too, Dammit...
'The Holidays.' Two of the most dreaded words for single women. It's not necessarily the fact that we are forced to watch smug couples walk hand in hand down the street singing carols while snowflakes gently fall all around them. Oh no, that's not it at all. Truly, I can live without having someone to kiss under the mistle toe...I can live without having someone to cuddle under the blanket with on a cold night. I AM OK WITH THAT. Kind of...not really...but that's not really my point.
My point is that we single women can kind of have a pep talk with ourselves (at least I do). We can psych ourselves up and can at least push our wish for a 'special someone' to the back of our minds and focus on enjoying our time with family and friends. It works just fine...UNTIL...you have freakin' nosey ass relatives that like to point out your single status for everyone to see. It's like sitting in one of those water dunking booths and instead of hurling balls, people are hurling nosey questions and veiled insults trying desperately to knock you in the water. It's all I can do to keep a fake smile on my lips and hold onto my seat for dear life because I know at any moment...one of those suckers is going to hit the target...and I'm going in.
posted by Lindsey @ 11/28/2005 06:38:00 PM
31 Comments:
so true Linny...holiday season sometimes brings too much heartache due to dumb and curious relatives..
**...you have freakin' nosey ass relatives that like to point out your single status for everyone to see.
dun worry dear...as I come from a Sri Lankan family, I have heaps and heaps of such relatives :) TO them, if u r over 25 and r single, then u r doomed for life..it's really funny and I wish I can tell them to fuck off...but I cant..cos to them that would be really indecent and immoral..lol!
Just shoo them and keep on rocking girl :)
Keshi.
I agree, when i was younger i used to always dread the "do you have a boyfriend yet" comments from relatives i would see once a year.
Now sadly i think they have given up asking me that question .....
as someone who is not single let me tell you this does not get better! Once you are with someone they will just find ways of making you uncomfortable with questions like, "are there weddign bells in the future" and " do I hear the pitter patter of little fit" Truly I think all people like this should be beat and then forced to answer their own ridiculous questions!
I was single during the holidays until I met my husband. I hated the holidays b/c of that. Now I love them.
I'm with Sarah. Just today, I called my cousin with some news, and as soon as I got the words, "Guess what?" out of my mouth, she (again) shrieked and said, "You're pregnant aren't you? And just in time for Christmas, too." True story...
And no, I'm not pregnant, much to her dismay.
I think holidays are hard on everyone. I hate seeing couples oogling over each other during these times or when I'm shopping, they ask "is this a gift for someone"? Duh you dorks, if I were buying it for someone else, why on earth would I be holding it up to myself in front of a mirror! I'm alone dammit!!!!
lol.. linny.. i get that EVERYDAY from EVERYONE...
"any new girlfriend?"
"no"
"nice boy like you? why??"
ugh...
happy holiday ;)
Very nicely put. I got the usual, "When are you and your boy getting married and having a baby?" questions all day long. Hey, man ... I am in my early 30's, not dead and I'm fine with my life. Why are they so concerned about it? Geez!!! My baby excuse this year is that I'm a heroin addict and that I didn't think a baby would fit in with that lifestyle. Surprisingly, it didn't go over as well as the, "I'm a lesbian and my boy is just a cover," excuse from last year. At least it shut them up for a few minutes!
linny: I feel your pain; whenever I run into cousins, uncles and aunts, that's usually the second question they ask. First: How is your mom. Second: So, you married yet?
Urg.
You can see why in movies that people hire actors or escorts to pretend to be their girlfriend/boyfriend LOL
I hate talking to my relatives.
I like seeing them, and I love them, but I HATE talking to them!
But, I think they just ask those questions because they don't know what else to say.
Like my family, we never see each other EXCEPT on holidays, so we don't really know each other...
The baby, wedding, relationship, work and/or school questions are maybe, always, sort of, kind of safe. At least one of them implies. Usually.
And really, I prefer it when I'm single at family functions. You can just say, "Nope. No boyfriend," instead of: Yes, you, I have a boyfriend. "Oh, what's his name?" Blah. "And what does he do?" Blah-blah. "Is he cute? I'll bet he's cute!" Sigh.
But really, anything's better than what I heard this year: Ashley, you need to start trying for the second one. BG needs a little brother or sister!
Yeah...And I need more money, more sleep, and, oh yeah, what was that again? That thing most 22 year olds do??
Sex?!
Yeah, I vaguely remember it. That, and my youth. ;)
Stupid holidays...
~ Ash
Holidays aren't much fun for single guys either...
At least this year I'm going to have my 'son', a 19 yo I used to mentor when I lived in Arizona staying with me over Christmas. I haven't seen him in over two years and I'm really looking forward to spending time with him again.
fake a man for them...it's always fun to say that youve got this really fit guy that you're keeping under wraps for a while longer because you don't want to xpoili things by telling everyone about him just yet
at least that way you can have a little fun with it as well, make him out to be this dynamite fella who's perfect in every way
you could even let it all fall through after the holidays and see if you can get the sympathy card from the relatives as well
Linny, remind them YOU haven't got someone growling behind your back when you go out for drinks with other guys....
Poor you!
I know, the feeling - used to hate it, now its just funny to me. Warning: They'll never give up!
:-)
Holidays suck for everyone at some point.
hell yeah. this will be my first holiday WITH a bf (like, ever) so i can't wait for all the fun questions everyone else has mentioned above ;-P i just saw an article the other day about how to deal with family questions... some lovely answers, like, "i don't want to get involved until after the sex change operation has healed completely" or "gosh aunt maude, it's just that no boy i meet can keep up with my RAGING SEX DRIVE!!" hee...
As a married woman, I will trade places with any singleton this time of year....two words: IN LAWS
There are plenty of other times I just want to be single again, no kid, no husband, and I could eat cereal for dinner in my old apartment and nobody would complain about his work shirts not being in the wash....
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Sorry about that, for some reason I double posted the same comment. Need to drink more coffee.
(Okay, then I think after this one that'll make a total of 3 comments. How annoying am I?)
I don't know what to say... it is crazy, but don't you think we will be doing the same thing when we are old and nosey?
While I am not single now, that was my situation for every Christmas for as long as I could remember. It took every fiber of myh being to stop from pelting someone over the head when I heard comments that smugly reminded me of being single. Aren't relatives supposed to be the ones that LOVE you??? Arrgghh
You know my grandmother is asking me everytime I see her if i've met someone. I NEVER talk about my love life with my family...it's frankly none of their business. One time she asked for the 35th time "So have you met a nice guy yet???" And at this point I was so fed up, I said "Why do you always ask me that? Why do you care so much???" She said she didnt care, and i said "Yes you do, it's the first thing you ever ask me when you havent seen me in months. Why not try asking how i'm doing? And besides, what if i'd met a nice girl???"
At which point my entire family in the surrounding area stopped and looked at me, and I realized that they're more close minded than I ever thought. I immediately said "I HAVENT, and am not gay"
She hasnt asked since.
I never really had that problem when I was single, probably bc their daughters were too! hehehe
Cant point out someone elses single status when your own kids have it too ;)
Amen! It's not just relatives. It's nosey people in general. It's hard enough to be single this time of year without having it rubbed in.
Yeah... I get that from my grandmother a lot. But I don't let it get to me, cuz she just points out EVERYONE'S flaws. Not that singleness is a flaw... she just thinks it is. I quite pity her.
Don't let them get you down. Just say you don't want to rush love. You don't want to marry the wrong guy. Divorce is crap.
Ah, the benefits of being a loner and having a small family: it has been so long since I've had a date that no one bothers asking anymore. Yes, we're counting years here, and it takes more than one hand to count on.
I find as I get older, I just can't be bothered. Too much effort for so little result. The "Does she/doesn't she"... I have no energy for it. I don't know what class other people attended that allows them a dating life, but I definitely slept through that one.
Again, as with other posts, this isn't just a female thing. Guys get it too. Or maybe I'm just a very effeminate guy.
True happiness can only come from within. Love yourself in your existence and peace follows.
Or some crap like that. And keshi is wrong, it is in no way immoral to tell someone to fuck off when said person is trying to tell you how to live your life. Even me.
Chukles :)
**And keshi is wrong, it is in no way immoral to tell someone to fuck off when said person is trying to tell you how to live your life.
duhhh I meant 'they' think it's immoral...I guess u didnt read that line properly....hehehe...
Keshi.
Still, it has nothing to do with morals.
It does, however, have plenty to do with ethics. It was Socrates who said, according to his student Plato, that we should all live our lives without concern for the opinions of others. It would, in fact, be a grave sin to take into account the crowd's opinions of our decisions and actions in life.
So, neener neener neener, keshi!
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