Unsaid
Today I caused great pain to someone from my past whom I care for deeply.
I just hope he knows how much it hurt me to do it. And I hope that when the hurt subsides, he will forgive me because I'm not sure that I'll be able to find forgivness within myself.
I'm sorry.
posted by Lindsey @ 7/27/2008 02:53:00 PM
12 Comments:
I wish I could say something to help.
You're hurting and I can feel it.
The pain hits hard...
sorry.
ej
I hope the hurt goes away for both of you.
How's Pete?
He's ok.
Will be here on the 15th.
Time heals....
Our past has a great way of jumping up and biting us in the ass. I don't believe for a moment you said it with the intent of causing emotional harm. It may have even been true (that doesn't excuse it).
A very wise, very southern lady once tried to teach me not to say anything to someone that wasn't "true, kind or necessary." She was much better at it that I'll ever be.
As for forgiving yourself: Can you unsay it? No. It is in the past. And you can't change history (you can only rewrite it). You said what you said. You apologized for it. You could commit some act of contrition (sending flowers works for me but I am a guy) and know that you have done all you can to make it right. That should be good enough for you. It may not be good enough for the other party but you can't control that (and you shouldn't worry about what you cannot control).
Sometimes, forgiving ourselves is the hardest part. But you must do it.
I'm sorry it hurt, but if it was something that they needed to hear then you shouldn't feel sorry for saying it. That is excactly what they will want you to feel. But since the subject was so vague, I don't know if the advice will help.
I wish things were a bit easier, but we wouldn't be human now would we? Thanks for sharing... hope to hear more from you.
I saw your comment on my blog. I've been wondering where the hell you've been. I'm sorry I missed your birthday.
(sigh) I hope that the pain for both of you has numbed by now...wishign you a beautiful day...
Hey lady, it's been a while. How are tricks?
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